Saturday mornings, diners, and alcohol tastings

Happy Saturday!

I don’t know about anybody else, but this past week flew by for me. I’m really glad it’s Saturday and I didn’t have to set a 6:15 AM alarm to wake up. Saturdays are meant for deep cleaning and breakfast as diners. Fortunately, I live in New Jersey and there is definitely no shortage of diners nearby. I’m surprised New Jersey isn’t known as the Diner State and not the Garden State. How many gardens do you see in NJ? Answer: A lot less than diners, that’s for sure!


Wedding planning is going full-steam ahead! Today, we have our alcohol tasting with our bartender! M and I decided that we would have open beer and wine and two to three specialty cocktails at our cocktail hour/reception. Our bartender, Aaron from 13th Street Cocktails, offered to have us at his farm and taste test some of his recipes. Who would turn down a complementary tasting of alcohol in the name of research?! I’m really excited about today and hope to report back with our drink selections.

Tomorrow, we’re visiting some of our bakery choices to set up an appointment for cake tasting. This is the part I’ve been looking forward to the most- not wedding dress shopping (from walking into the store to walking out, it only took me 2 hours to find a dress plus all of my accessories), not looking at wedding bands (although that was really fun and we get to go back to buy them soon!), not registering for gifts, but the cake. M says that the cake is his one thing, which means that he’s making most of the choices about the cake. Say what you want, but my one thing is lace table runners and guess what we’re having? Exactly.

New Jersey bar results still have not been released, yet. I took the exam a little over a month ago, so I’m starting to get a little antsy. It’s hard to start a job search when I’m not sure which state to focus on. Do I only look in PA for now, then expand to NJ when I get my passing results? Do I look in both? As of now, I’m looking in both states and focusing on New Jersey. I haven’t gotten any interviews yet so I don’t have to worry about declining an interview and having to explain that I haven’t passed.

Overall, this will be a very productive weekend for me! I’m looking forward to writing more about my upcoming wedding and job search in future posts, so keep a look out!

PS: If anybody has any recommendations for hair and makeup artists in the Greater Philly/South Jersey area, please comment with their name!

Cups of coffee, stress dreams, and being an asshole. What I learned from taking the bar . . . again.

I learned that when I’m overwhelmed, I am SUCH an asshole.

I also learned that working full time, studying for the bar, and planning a wedding is no way to live my life.

Additionally, I learned that my stress dreams are incredibly vivid. For instance, I had multiple dreams where I was hunted down by a shooter, had to hide under cars, and was shot in the face with a rifle. Mix bar related stress dreams (being shot, coming back for the afternoon session 15 minutes later than I’m supposed to, not bringing an extra pencil, not bringing my license, finding out I was actually arrested and didn’t disclose etc.) with wedding related stress dreams (being shot, not having the license, losing the rings, nobody shows up, etc.) and you have approximately four months of terrible sleep.

Unlike those who are at private firms, my employer wasn’t paying me to take the bar again. When I told my Judge that I failed I cried hysterically; thankfully I was wearing waterproof makeup, he told me to take a week and decide whether I was going to take it again or not. I immediately said no, I’d rather wait 5 years and practice in the state I was admitted to than sit and take the bar again. Well, four days later guess who had finished her bar application and put in for seven days of vacation.

I’ll give you a hint: this is a blog about me.
Answer: It was me.


Here is a list of all the things I learned when I took the bar for the second time:
1. I’m not dumb, stupid, lazy, or inept – I just answer two or three questions wrong. Plenty of people failed the bar the first time they took it. For instance: Hillary Clinton (failed DC), Michelle Obama (failed IL), FDR (failed NY), JFK (failed NY), Justice Cardozo (failed FIVE TIMES).

2. I had a cool sense of deja vu. I knew what the morning would be like, what the afternoons would be like, and how to structure my answers. I spent less time focusing on the mechanics of setting up IRAC and more time on the substantive materials.

3. Some employers care a little bit. I didn’t know this until I failed, but I learned that some employers only hire people who have passed the bar on the first attempt. It sucks to hear, especially if you wanted to apply to the firm, but whatever. They don’t want you, so don’t spend anymore time on wishing you did better, or beating yourself up about trying harder. There is a place that wants to hire you, whether it’s the state/local government, the federal government, or a private practice.


5.  Room temperature lunch blows. Oh, yum, just want I always wanted, two semi-warm peanut butter sandwiches. Thanks nutrition gods! *I know I packed my own lunch, but there aren’t any refrigerators to use and the lunches had to remain in a separate area.

6. Driving home never felt so good.

7. Don’t go to work the next day, if you can. Stay the fuck home, take a shower, drink some coffee, and take approximately six naps because you’ll still be tired as hell.

8. When the results come out again, don’t check them at work.

UPDATE: Three weeks later



Hi guys,

It’s been nearly three weeks since I took the bar exams and so much as happened! Here are a few updates.

Bar exams:
They were incredibly tough. Each day that goes by I’m convinced more than ever that I failed both of them. My Barbri books still haven’t been returned because I can’t bring myself to even look at them. I’m half tempted to keep them just in case but there is a $250 book refund and that money is looking awfully good right now.

I can’t offer any tips about the bar since I’m not sure if I passed, so look for a later update if you want advice. What I can say is that I’m so glad that they are done.

I moved less than one week after the bar exams and in with M. It felt, and still feels, like the natural next step in our relationship. I’ve had a lot of fun decorating and unpacking and turning this apartment into a home. I still have about 2% of items that need to be put away, but on the whole the apartment is pretty much done. Pretty soon after moving in, we both had to leave because we took our first vacation!

M and I took a vacation three days after I moved in to the Outer Banks in North Carolina. This was an amazing vacation! The beaches were beautiful, the people SO friendly, the seafood was delicious, and the sunsets were amazing! We stayed in a little guest cottage that we found on a website similar to AirBnB. We saw dolphins while taking a sunset cruise, heard a horse while walking on a nature trail, both received pretty gnarly sunburns, learned about the Wright Brothers and saw where the first flight took place, cooked a clam pot, ate delicious fudge, and relaxed on the beach. It was a perfect vacation with a perfect person and I wouldn’t have had it any other way. I’ve provided myself the perfect segway into my next section . . .

A cute little dock that we saw while meandering around Duck

M proposed while we were in the Outer Banks! It was a beautiful and private proposal and I immediately said yes. We haven’t planned any details yet, we both just want to enjoy being engaged for a little bit, but we’ll start that soon enough.


So there are my latest updates! I start my new job in about ten days, so I’m sure there will be another entry about that, too.

I want to thank all of the readers on here and my twitter followers for giving me such support during the bar exam. I read each and every tweet and comment, even if I didn’t respond, and was incredibly touched. Thank you all!